Archive for April, 2011

Mixing Swinging With Dating In The Vanilla World

Friday, April 1st, 2011

Dating as a swinger, especially in a world that isn’t so accepting of swingers, can be hard. It can be done though, you just need to follow some simple advice.

Be Discreet

You can fully enjoy a swinging lifestyle without being shunned by your community. The easiest way to do this is to stick to swinging events for big dates. You can join a swingers club and find outings and activities with other swingers. Most of these activities will be held in private or semi-private locations so you don’t have to worry about being seen and outed to co-workers or family.

Double Dates And Groups

If you have another couple that you enjoy, consider bringing them along on your next date. This doesn’t look out of the ordinary as people go on double dates or group dates all the time. The only difference is the end of the evening may go differently than a traditional vanilla date. This is a great way to enjoy the company of your swinging partners and not be confined to a home or swingers club.

Be Realistic

You won’t be able to walk in to restaurant wearing your favorite swinging gear. You also won’t be able to be completely open with other couples while out in public. This doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself, you’ll just have to be more discreet about the build up. Besides, this can actually be more fun since there is a taboo element at play, and only the people in your group are aware of it. If you plan on taking the date indoors after, you have already spent the entire evening building it up. Think of it as quiet foreplay.