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Mixing Swinging With Dating In The Vanilla World

Friday, April 1st, 2011

Dating as a swinger, especially in a world that isn’t so accepting of swingers, can be hard. It can be done though, you just need to follow some simple advice.

Be Discreet

You can fully enjoy a swinging lifestyle without being shunned by your community. The easiest way to do this is to stick to swinging events for big dates. You can join a swingers club and find outings and activities with other swingers. Most of these activities will be held in private or semi-private locations so you don’t have to worry about being seen and outed to co-workers or family.

Double Dates And Groups

If you have another couple that you enjoy, consider bringing them along on your next date. This doesn’t look out of the ordinary as people go on double dates or group dates all the time. The only difference is the end of the evening may go differently than a traditional vanilla date. This is a great way to enjoy the company of your swinging partners and not be confined to a home or swingers club.

Be Realistic

You won’t be able to walk in to restaurant wearing your favorite swinging gear. You also won’t be able to be completely open with other couples while out in public. This doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself, you’ll just have to be more discreet about the build up. Besides, this can actually be more fun since there is a taboo element at play, and only the people in your group are aware of it. If you plan on taking the date indoors after, you have already spent the entire evening building it up. Think of it as quiet foreplay.

Dating Advice For Swingers

Thursday, January 27th, 2011

Finding someone to date when you want to live a swingers lifestyle can be difficult. People who aren’t swingers don’t understand the lifestyle, and most dating sites cater to couples looking for other couples. There are several things you can employ to find a good partner.

Be Honest

Don’t try to hide the fact that you’re a swinger. Many people assume if they meet someone great and it really starts get serious that their partner will be open later on when they find out about the desire to swing. Unfortunately, this is almost never the case. No matter what kind of feelings they have for you, if they aren’t in to the lifestyle you aren’t going to change their minds. You will be faced with not living the lifestyle to stay with them, or leaving them to find someone who is more open. Either of these choices are not ideal.

Go To Clubs And Meetings

Most clubs will allow a certain number of singles in to each event. In most cases they don’t want more than 10% of the population to be single, but this can still give you an opportunity to meet others who are interested in swinging and are also single. You can find clubs and swingers meetings by going online.

Post An Online Ad

Even though most swingers site are geared towards couples, it doesn’t hurt to create a profile and see what happens. Many other single swingers are looking for partners, and this will get your information out there for others to see.

Places to find dates online

Saturday, December 18th, 2010

The modern age of dating has moved to a more digital world. In the past we had to rely on friends or family to introduce us, count on chance encounters while out, or go to smoky bars in the hopes of meeting people. Now this world has opened up tremendously and these unappealing options aren’t all that’s out there. Here are a few great places to check for dates online.

Dating Websites

One good way to find people to date online is by scouting out a few dating websites. You can find sites that are great for general dating, or for those who have more specific tastes. You can find sites that cater to specific backgrounds, religious affiliations, and interests. Spend some time looking around before you decide to create a profile. Most sites will allow you to do a basic browse search before you need to sign up.

Forums

Are you a big soccer fan? Backing a certain political party? You can find plenty of forums where folks with the same ideas and interests as you can go for friendly chats or heated debates. Many forums will also have a singles section, allowing you to introduce yourself and meet others. The downside to this is you usually can’t weed people out by region, so if you’re on a global forum you may have a hard time meeting people in your area.

Online Ads

Many communities will have online bulletin boards that will allow you to post free personal ads. This is the modern version of the old newspaper personal. Since these are typically free or very low cost to place, and free to browse, it’s a popular way to meet people.

Dating A Dogger And What To Expect

Saturday, November 13th, 2010

Dogging is becoming more widespread across the world. While it’s always been out there, only recently has it seen more public appeal. If you’ve met someone who participates in dogging, you shouldn’t assume they are deviants. You can have a meaningful relationship with a few tips.

Understand Dogging

Before you decide to pursue a date with someone in to dogging, you should understand what it is. Dogging is a form of exhibitionism and voyeurism. Some doggers also enjoy group action. Dogging itself is the act of having sex in public in a place where others can watch, or it can involve watching other couples. In some cases, a couple may be open to having others join when they are caught. Dogging is often misunderstood, but it is practiced with specific guidelines and etiquette, and doggers are typically very respectful of others boundaries.

Ask Questions

If you are dating someone and they bring up the act of dogging, don’t be afraid to ask questions. If you have never been exposed to the lifestyle, a dogger will be willing to explain everything. This will make you more comfortable with the idea, and allow you to decide if you want to participate.

Walking Away

Bringing up the subject of dogging can be uncomfortable for both people. If you aren’t in to the idea, simply speak up. You don’t have to be offensive about it, just tell the other person it’s not something you are interested in. Since dogging is a touchy subject, your feelings will be respected. Worse case scenario is you can walk away from the relationship since this is normally something that is brought up early on.